Why?
Recently a colleague and I were discussing why many women stay in destructive relationships. She was sure it was for financial reasons. "They aren't financially independent," she said. I agreed with her that it seems a reasonable motivation to remain. But then she had also to accept an unhappy life. I've never been in that position so I have no experience in that respect. None. I'm also not a woman and subjected to insidious, ubiquitous and violent appraisal by many men. Many women who want to leave need significant support, a commodity that, unfortunately, is often in short supply or simply not understood. In the course of our discussion, I suggested that the main reason may lie much deeper than that. I suspect that many women also bear a deep sense of worthlessness and shame and haven't, yet, allowed their rage to burst to the surface. This, of course, begs the question: How is it that the vast majority of abusers, controllers, attackers, haters, liars, man...
